I worry sometimes that I would’ve gone down that wrong path if my depression hadn’t made me predisposed to blame myself for things. Maybe that’s not giving myself enough credit, but I’m just glad I didn’t turn out to be a misogynist incel.
I poked my head into an MRA space back in the day, but I didn’t stick around because they annoyed me. It was all doom and gloom with no plan of action. From what I’ve heard about the incel community, it’s a thousand times worse.
Yeah I bet. I mean the notion that you’re “involuntarily celibate” is gross and somehow thinks getting laid is a human right. It’s been a while since I’ve dated, but I’ve come to realize that the fruitless years, so to speak, were self sabotage from poor self esteem and confidence. All because of dating apps making me think badly of myself.
Turns out, men and women use the apps completely differently. The distribution of men’s interests to the overall population of women follows a bell curve. But, the distribution of women’s interests to the overall population of men is heavily skewed towards the top 10% – whatever the hell that even means. So plenty of great guys, the majority of them, walk away thinking they’re ugly and unattractive. Of course, we didn’t know this when the apps were just starting to take off, and they were used quite a lot in college. I wonder if some of the issues men as a whole face (lack of direction, higher suicide rates, etc) partially stem from this.
I have no idea what you’re on about with dating apps. I’m not saying that you’re wrong, I’m just having trouble understanding your argument. Do you have any studies or anything to back it up?
Contrapoints has a really good video about the incel community here. From what I’ve read, it started out as a support group (actually started by a woman), but when people began making it an identity, it became a toxic cesspool.
I worry sometimes that I would’ve gone down that wrong path if my depression hadn’t made me predisposed to blame myself for things. Maybe that’s not giving myself enough credit, but I’m just glad I didn’t turn out to be a misogynist incel.
I guess being a trans woman made it seem shit for me too
I poked my head into an MRA space back in the day, but I didn’t stick around because they annoyed me. It was all doom and gloom with no plan of action. From what I’ve heard about the incel community, it’s a thousand times worse.
Yeah I bet. I mean the notion that you’re “involuntarily celibate” is gross and somehow thinks getting laid is a human right. It’s been a while since I’ve dated, but I’ve come to realize that the fruitless years, so to speak, were self sabotage from poor self esteem and confidence. All because of dating apps making me think badly of myself.
Turns out, men and women use the apps completely differently. The distribution of men’s interests to the overall population of women follows a bell curve. But, the distribution of women’s interests to the overall population of men is heavily skewed towards the top 10% – whatever the hell that even means. So plenty of great guys, the majority of them, walk away thinking they’re ugly and unattractive. Of course, we didn’t know this when the apps were just starting to take off, and they were used quite a lot in college. I wonder if some of the issues men as a whole face (lack of direction, higher suicide rates, etc) partially stem from this.
Sorry, got onto a tangent haha
I have no idea what you’re on about with dating apps. I’m not saying that you’re wrong, I’m just having trouble understanding your argument. Do you have any studies or anything to back it up?
Contrapoints has a really good video about the incel community here. From what I’ve read, it started out as a support group (actually started by a woman), but when people began making it an identity, it became a toxic cesspool.
Yeah I should’ve mentioned it was based on studies. Here’s an article about the study: https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/women-more-selective-80-men-unattractive-on-dating-apps-recent-research
I haven’t had much luck finding the study itself unfortunately thanks to Twitter being less functional than before.