Hi, I’m a 21 year old guy and every time I’m outside for example to buy groceries I see so many good looking people (both female and male).
I don’t know what it is but they seem almost perfect, their faces are so beautiful and perfect, their clothes are so stylish and perfect, their hair and make up appearance looks so well groomed and beautiful. (I’m mainly referring to people around my age from Gen Z)
They’re all so confident and wear jewelry etc.
I don’t even have the knowledge how to dress good and stylish as I don’t have a feel for that. I just end up wearing what’s most comfortable for me like random sneakers, sweatpants/shorts and a polo shirt. But even if I was able to dress stylishly my face naturally still looks very average and not like all these other people.
I wonder why people look so perfect nowadays. When I look at old video tapes or pictures (like from the 1900’s) people seem to have looked way more average like me. Why could this be? Is the pressure from social media a reason because that’s why I’m purposefully not on there.
And honestly I also don’t feel like putting so much time and effort into my looks as I think this is only secondary in life and I mainly value human connections. Obviously I put some extra time into it for some occasions where I put on contact lenses, creams, a little make up (one that’s for men of course), hair gel/spray and perfume but even then I feel like I don’t look as good as many of these people I see on a regular basis.
No I wanna know because I’m self conscious and wanna improve my look and take advice happily. If you go as far and say I’m “too far gone” then you can also tell me what the reason for that is. For me a polo and sweatpants/shorts are normal casual wear.
Polo shirts are “dressy casual”. Sweat pants are gym clothes. Mixing the two is a big fuckup. People might tend to take the position that fashion is binary: either you like to walk around like you’re going to the academy awards, or you don’t give a fuck. The reality is that there is a place in the middle where it’s not really fashion we’re talking about; it’s just being “put together”. There is no need to don a silk shirt and tie to go the supermarket. But on the other hand, walking around in daily life like you just rolled out of bed is dis-empowering. If you present yourself to the world with a DGAF attitude, then the world will simply DGAF you back. Understand that every time you go out in public you are showcasing who you are by how you look and dress. Every time is an opportunity. Maybe you meet a new friend or lover. Maybe the person behind you in line that you chat with is potentially your new boss. Putting yourself together before you go out is not about projecting a false or smug image; it’s about projecting care and confidence. When people see that you give a fuck about how you present yourself, then they conclude that you probably give a fuck about other things too; maybe things they care about. Don’t wear sweat pants or gym clothes out and about as daily drivers. Pair that Ralph Loren Polo with shorts, or with nice fitting jeans.
It’s not about sweatpants and polo or not. It’s about which sweatpants with which polo shirt
I’m literally trying to do that middle approach. It’s just that I don’t wanna spend the majority of my life thinking how I should dress especially when I’m just going to the grocery store, as life is way too short for that.
But like I said I value comfort and it’s not like I don’t care what others think, it’s just that it’s not too important for me and everyone has their own taste anyways.
For example I don’t like jeans at all for me personally, comfort and style wise (even though I think it looks very beautiful on others).
Matching the Polo with shorts is literally in the first image I sent you and that’s a common fit I wear in the summer. When wearing sweatpants I often go with a hoodie or hoodie jacket and these are very common things.
So I really don’t see the problem. I’m not saying it’s bad that others put so much effort and thought into their appearance I’m just saying it’s not my thing and what I’m good at as this would exhaust me. But I agree with your point that anything could be a potential chance and it’s important how you present yourself.
Seems like a common thing
what we see here is
step 1: be fit and good looking. step 2: wear anything you want and look good (it’s not about the clothes)
The picture of the guy wearing the green sweat pants is wearing a t-shirt, so that’s not a fuckup. But the guy wearing the grey Izod with the sweatpants and sneakers is a major fuckup. A major big fuckup that says “I’m clueless”. If you want to spend your life lonely and depressed, go ahead wear that.
This is where you’re not getting it… you think about it once. Get your style choices and wardrobe sorted. Then after that it’s just putting on clothes.
Only one of those is actually what I’d describe as “polo shirt and sweatpants” - first one isn’t really wearing sweatpants (and doesn’t have super hairy legs like many men) and the third one isn’t wearing a polo shirt. And yeah, the look might work if you’re fit and at least know how to pick clothes that match (color and fit) both with each other and with the way your body, hair etc. look. But the way you’re describing yourself doesn’t really sound like it.