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  • When I started HRT, my doctor had me ramp up the antiandrogen slowly over the course of 4 weeks. It was spironolactone and that caused some odd issues shortly after the increase day. Also I was on 4mg/day of sublingual estradiol. The weird feelings were weakness and an inability to regulate temperature, but nothing painful.

    Other antiandrogens are available, it’s probably a good idea to make some sort of change to your medicine. Pain is usually an indication that something is wrong.





  • Trans people being for pansexuals is a common trope in queer pandering media. They specifically pair trans people with pansexuals, so they can be inclusive, but in the specific way that doesn’t ask their mostly cis and straight audience to question their own sexuality, because that might make them uncomfortable.

    Its not a reflection of reality. Hot women are hot, hot men are hot, regardless of how they got there.

    Edit: I disagree with the ban. It isn’t transphobic to be misinformed. They even phrased it as a question, and didn’t argue their position any further. They sounded genuinely confused about the terms, and every other reply seemed to have drawn the same conclusion.


  • Gender dysphoria is not diagnosed by the symptoms. The determining factors are the desire for change, and the presence of some sort of distress or discomfort. The specifics of the discomfort that you experience are not part of it. If you want to change your gender, and have some amount of discomfort as a result, you have gender dysphoria. From reading your post, it sure sounds like it.

    If you’re interested, I have included the diagnostic criteria for gender dysphoria and transsexualism from the American Psychiatric Association’s DSM-5, and the World Health Organization’s ICD-10 respectively. If you go to a doctor they will almost assuredly be using one of these documents to determine if you can be diagnosed for it. They both require some amount distress or discomfort but give no details on what that distress or discomfort feels like or how it manifests.

    DSM-5's Diagnostic criteria

    Gender Dysphoria in Adolescents and Adults 302.85 (F64.1)

    A. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, of at least 6 months’ duration, as manifested by at least two of the following:

    1. A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics).

    2. A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics because of a marked incongruence with one’s experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics).

    3. A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender.

    4. A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).

    5. A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender).

    6. A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s assigned gender)

    B. The condition is associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

    ICD-10's Diagnostic Criteria for Transsexualism

    F64.0

    Transsexualism

    A desire to live and be accepted as a member of the opposite sex, usually accompanied by a sense of discomfort with, or inappropriateness of, one’s anatomic sex and a wish to have hormonal treatment and surgery to make one’s body as congruent as possible with the preferred sex.

    Diagnostic guidelines

    For this diagnosis to be made, the transsexual identity should have been present persistently for at least 2 years, and must not be a symptom of another mental disorder, such as schizophrenia, or associated with any intersex, genetic, or sex chromosome abnormality.





  • My experience with dysphoria has always been subtle and unspecific. It took a very long time for me to recognize it.

    In adulthood, it was little more than a slight inclination towards depression. Whenever I would notice it, it was far easier to attribute it to immediate circumstances.

    When I felt it in winter, surely its just seasonal depression. When I felt it in summer, its just because I hate summer. During covid I was miserable because I couldn’t go anywhere, then afterwards I was miserable because I had to go places. This was all dysphoria, but nothing about it gave any indication it was about gender.

    Also I had the emotional range of a thimble. (what is this metaphor?) I could feel empty, or angry, and little else.

    I never liked how I looked in pictures avoided taking them, or appearing in them when possible. I guess I’m just ugly, that’s the most reasonable explanation.

    It took me a very long time to realize I was trans, and even longer to be ready to accept it. It wasn’t until I started HRT and most of what I have described went away that I realized it was dysphoria.

    I dislike the word dysphoria, because its such a strong word. For a long time I thought that my subtle and nonspecific feelings couldn’t possibly be enough to be dysphoria.

    To anyone out there reading this because you’re uncertain if you’re feeling dysphoria: When a disorder is named after its symptoms it’s usually named at a very early stage of research, when researchers are only able to find the most obvious examples. This is why so many disorders have incredibly scary sounding names. Dysphoria can be that bad for some, but it can also be so subtle you don’t even realize you’re suffering.



  • Waist measurements for women are made quite high, above the navel. Hip measurements are made around the middle of the butt. The jeans will only be the width of the waist measurement if they are high rise jeans. Mid rise jeans don’t go high enough to reach the natural waist, so the waist measurement is less of an issue.

    Keep in mind the measurements are a circumference. 8 inches seems like a lot, but it equates to around 1-2 inches of linear distance, which is much less than it seems.

    Women’s jeans tend to be made with much stretchier fabrics than men’s jeans. That’s why women’s jeans look better and are more form fitting. If the measurements are a little off in some place, the stretch of the fabric will help.

    I just measured my jeans looping the tape measure through the belt loops and it went from 39" when relaxed to 45" when pulled tight. There’s a lot of leeway.

    I would recommend getting mid rise jeans and prioritizing the hip measurement over the waist measurement. If you pick the size that is close it will probably be close enough.