Cleaning before leaving is a game changer. To add to this, launder your bedsheets and towels and have them ready to go for when you get back. Not only will your home smell fresh, but you’ll feel fresh after washing off the travel grime and have a nap.

I had a similar experience growing up, it sucks. It has ruined my ability to interact with and form relationships with other men.

As a father myself, I am striving to create moments like you witnessed, I refuse to let my children suffer the way I/we have.

People don’t want to watch reruns

I feel this in my bones.

I thought satisfactory at first too, but fluffy tailed hogs and lizard doggos don’t seem to give a shit that I just built an oil pipeline and two dozen oil refineries in their home.

The article isn’t terribly long, but here is the direct link to Taters https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GvJtVOmFs5Q

It’s an ADHD black hole, I love it

Tell me more about these cats. I’d like my V to be a cat lady, please and thank you.

Lots of good technical starting points here. I don’t want to prematurely discourage you, but before you get into any code, evaluate your problem solving abilities. If that is an area you struggle in, work on that first, or at least in conjunction with programming basics.

I’ve worked with engineers who have all the code skills, but when faced with a complex issue, struggled to break it down into it’s simplest components and wound up with a messy, over-engineered solution.

My social anxiety would love to give a one word answer and move on, my ADHD/self-doubt/trauma says “are you sure that’s enough? they’ll think you are an idiot and don’t know what you’re doing if you don’t elaborate”

This isn’t an endorsement for brave, but the websites aren’t loading properly because they are full of the trash that brave blocks, not due to bugs in the browser.

For me, it depends on how much time I have before starting. If the start is immediate, “I’ll figure this out on the fly” then ride that “oh, shit I don’t know what I’m doing” adrenaline fueled dopamine wave all the way to borderline success. If I have lots of time before starting I’ll over analyze then try and fail to become an expert and give up before starting.

The bulk of my day to day work is with a legacy application written in vb.net, and I couldn’t agree more with your first paragraph.

My employer (< 20 total employees, 3 total devs) was recently acquired by a much larger company. Our lead dev was made a manager and no longer has time to code and I was made a team lead and now half my time is spent in meetings, code review, or deployments. I am finding that with limited time for coding I am writing more concise, thoughtful code.

The hardest part of the change was adjusting my expectations for the product. We can no longer deliver what we want at the pace we want as that is now dictated by someone.