Hate to break it to you but we’re 1% of the population.
We don’t need to be picked but we absolutely do need to be tolerable in the eyes of average cishet people so they leave us alone.
So anyway, some of us have experience from more than two decades of activism & organizing seeing what actually works to secure us basic legal and medical rights.
Others live on hexbear.net and toss terms like “pick-me loser” around at any transsexual with a sense of pragmatism. Be mad about it.
This is a fallacy that treats all arguments as equal in the eyes of average people. But they are not.
The women’s sports attack is a bridge argument. They came after it because it’s a place where we lose. By replaying that loss over and over it serves to erode the general consensus on our rights, so that they can expand to other more radical positions later.
Arguing in that arena effectively builds the bridge with them even though your intentions may be pure.
It’s better instead to instead cut our losses and fight them on a topic very few people will disagree with us on. This builds consensus among the general population that we are on the right side of history. This burns down the bridge so they cannot cross it.