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Cake day: June 23rd, 2023
  • AngryHippy@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•[Serious] How do you relate to others outside of pop culture?
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    1 year ago

    The second part of my answer is how I go about it, as someone with some weird niche interests. I just try to get people to talk about their interests.

    Sometimes though, people use safe standard topics as a way of setting boundaries, and that’s cool too. Especially in a work environment where competition for promotion exists, people aren’t very chill about letting their genuine freak flag fly. The same goes for weird awkward situations like the plus 1 conversation pit at a partners work (adjacent) event. Gotta be on the best behavior and talk about the ball game, the movie premiere, and the Hollywood strike instead of things you don’t know people’s reaction to when it could hurt your partner’s career.

    But in truly social, zero stakes, situations, I just try to get people talking, and if they toss the question back to me, pick some interest of mine that seems less weird to chat about and see how they react.

    I mean, your niche interests can’t be THAT weird if you’re looking to connect to people about them, so just stick one of them out there and see how it’s received.

  • AngryHippy@lemmy.worldtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•[Serious] How do you relate to others outside of pop culture?
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    1 year ago

    I don’t mean this in any way to be condescending, but it sounds like your question could he rephrased as “How do you make small talk about something other than media consumption?”

    And the answer to that question is to have interests outside of consuming media. Not only does it give you other things to talk about, it gives you other people to talk to.

    Outside of that, in a more general sense, it isn’t hard to just prompt people to tell you about whatever they are into. You can literally just be like “So what are you into?” And let people just tell you point blank what they like talking about. From there it’s super easy to just keep them rolling along with questions like “how’d you get into THING?” or “that sounds cool, what’s a good way to get started in THING?”.

    Everyone has SOMETHING they’re super into, so just get them to talk about it. It doesn’t have to interest you at all - it’s just cool to hear people talk about what they’re into - and it gives you a lot of insight into whether or not they’re the kind of person you want to get to know better just from how they talk about their interests.

  • AngryHippy@lemmy.worldtoFediverse@lemmy.world•Re: Defederation - Does Lemmy need a charter?English
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    1 year ago

    Why not defederate? How much friction is there in making a new account on their instance to:

    • get support in an appropriate forum, and:
    • keep a fire gap between that account that is a known consumer of Product X and your other account that has lots of other data that maybe shouldn’t be tied to your verified consumer purchases like a giant sign saying “triangulate my interests and sell crap to me”