So I met this girl by chance and we really hit it off, once I learned of her age I decided to just be friends as I think that 19 to 25 is an age were we mature a lot and I remember myself as a 19yo and I was not mature enough to be a good partner and to be good to myself.

I talked to a female friend of mine and she said that I’m over thinking it and that I should ask her out and be open minded, and so I did and we are going on a date soon.

The thing is, she seems really mature but I can’t put aside the age gap.

Am I over thinking it? Should I really just take it slow and just be vigilant about the situation and notice if this isn’t healthy for me or her?

Or should I let her down easy and continue as friends?

Update: We went on a date and it was great, I read all of the comments and there were some really good advices that I took to heart. I will take things slow and try to be as aware of the situation as possible. I hope it will go well :)

Thank you everyone!

  • MTK@lemmy.worldOP
    51·
    1 year ago

    I don’t think it is, while age ia not THE determining factor it does point to a possible lack of maturaity, experience, etc

    So for some 18yo it night be okay to date a 21+ while others might have a 16yo mindset and really should’t date anyone.

    • redempt@lemmy.world
      2·
      1 year ago

      you can’t be 100% sure about a relationship until you try it. it might work out, it might not. age is not going to be an obvious problem upfront if she seems mature. you just have to accept that you’re taking a risk.

    • Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works
      2·
      1 year ago

      This is a good take, and you seem like a decent person. I think after a couple dates, you would quickly know if she is as mature as she seems and if it feels like the relationship is unbalanced or not.

      My wife and I are similar distances and met at a similar age. I couldn’t stand most girls her age, or even my age. But she has always been an old soul, and was more mature than most women I would have met, and certainly more mature than I was back then.

    • mikeboltonshair@sh.itjust.works
      1·
      1 year ago

      Ffs date her and see what happens, you know find out what she’s like and all that…

      Date the person not the number…

      Also cuz I know the internet likes to be ridiculous with stuff don’t take the above statement and say some dumb shit like what if a 12 yr old was the number, this thread is about an 18 year old who is of legal age for the most part in most places