There certainly are videos out there for you but you should determine some goals that you’re trying to accomplish. What kind of server? A website? An e-mail server? A local network file server? I think a good place to start as a beginner is to try to make a web server with a personal web site, but there can be a few hurdles with that. The main one is that your ISP may not offer a static IP address, meaning the IP address of your home network might change frequently. There are ways around that but it adds complexity. The fundamentals of what you’ll need to host a website from home are:

1. A PC with internet connection
2. Install LAMP or WAMP stacks (Linux/Windows , Apache, MySQL, PHP)
3. Set up port forwarding on your router to direct incoming web traffic to your server
4. Register a domain (free ones exist) and direct it to your IP address

This video appears to do a good job of setting up a WAMP (windows) server: WAMP Video

But I recommend using LAMP (Linux). Although Linux may be less familiar to you, if you continue down the rabbit hole of server administration Linux will be so much more helpful to you in the long run.

You don’t need your own server for a Lemmy account. Just register on any existing instance.

If you want to host your own instance, what’s your goal with it? It’s not just set-and-forget, you will have to maintain it against bots, attacks, keep it online, keep it backed up, keep it updated, and so on.

I would advise you to let the experts do the job instead.

You need to protect your server from hackers, viruses, malware, and other threats that could compromise your data or harm your network. You also need to comply with the laws and regulations regarding the content and services that you host on your server. If you don’t know how to secure your server properly, you could expose yourself to legal liability or cyberattacks.

Yunohost might be a good point to start? Havent tried it yet but it seems to be a fast and safebway to host.