Example, Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

I hate this for the obvious reasons but it’s especially annoying to me because my wife didn’t take my surname!

  • Kecessa@sh.itjust.works
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    6 天前

    Name changing upon getting married was made illegal in 1981 around here, my girlfriend gets pissed when people make the mistake and use my family name to refer to her!

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      6 天前

      What a weird way to take away people’s freedoms.

      I didn’t even really want my wife to take my last name, but she insisted because she’s estranged from her parents.

      I can’t imagine a bureaucrat telling her she can’t change her name because they know better than she does.

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        6 天前

        Yeah I don’t think women see it as a freedom issue as much as feeling obligated to change their name does.

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          6 天前

          I told her I didn’t think she should change her name. She told me she really wanted to.

          You should have the right to tell her no?

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            5 天前

            She could have done it through the regular name changing process like anyone else (which involves fees and a lot of paperwork to make sure all records are updated everywhere).

            It’s just not legal to do it as part of the wedding process like it’s done in other provinces.

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              5 天前

              Oh, so it’s one of those cases of the Quebecois trying to make life shitty for Anglophone culture.

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                5 天前

                Eh… What? You realize French Canadians outside Quebec still do it and French Quebecois did it before the law changed?

                Keep your racism to yourself, thanks.

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      5 天前

      Illegal, or do you just have to go through the same process as any other name change?

      Personally I ditched my problematic last name gladly, but my MIL kept hers

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        5 天前

        Illegal to do as part of the wedding process but if you want to do it just like anyone else can then no problem